What God Tells Parents To Expect

By Nate Wilson for Christ the Redeemer Church, Manhattan, KS, 14 Nov. 2021

Intro

    1. The first was a book entitled The Way Home, written by Mary Pride, a feminist who had converted to Biblical Christianity in the Presbyterian Church in America. The year I got married, a fellow college student who was also married but had a couple of children gave me a copy of this book after I asked him if the rumor was true that he wasn’t trying to control how many children they would have. Chapter 8 of that book was entitled, “Beyond No-Fault Childrearing,” and it exposed me for the first time to a Biblical basis for welcoming children and expecting God to make them turn out well.

    2. The second influence that changed my perspective on parenting was a set of cassette tapes from my brother and sister-in-law, presented to me shortly after the birth of my second child. (For those of you born fewer than 20 years ago, cassette tapes were the way everybody stored information before the digital age. An electromagnet was used to arrange rust particles on a long piece of plastic tape into waves the same shape as sound waves, then the tape would be wrapped around a spool for storage. To play the tape back, you’d put it in a tape player with a motor that turned the spool and dragged the tape across a magnetically-sensitive head that would turn the waves of charged rust particles back into sound waves with a loudspeaker. The cool thing was you actually possessed this recording and could listen to it anywhere, any time, without any internet connection, and you could physically hand it to someone else and then they could listen to it!) Anyway, these tapes from my brother were of a seminar delivered by an ex-hippie-turned-conservative-Mennonite named Denny Kenaston. Among other things, he preached passionately on training and disciplining children. He was definitely not Presbyterian, but he had a confidence I had never heard before in a preacher, that children raised intentionally and diligently by Christian parents with Biblical nurture and admonition, would grow up to be godly adults.

    3. The third piece that aided in this revolution in my thinking was reading No Greater Joy magazines written by Mike and Debbie Pearl. In their monthly or quarterly articles, they translated their mindset of optimistic Christian parenting into practical examples from everyday living. Now, Mike is an independent fundamental Baptist preacher; he’s as as anti-Calvinist and anti-baby-sprinkling and anti-anything-but-King-James-Bible as you can get, so I have my theological disagreements with him, but his belief that parents fundamentally shape the character of their children was pretty convincing as, over the years, every one of his children have grown up and gotten married and carried on the faith.

Ever since Adam and Eve did the one thing God commanded them not to do in the Garden of Eden, they and their descendants have been broken in their rela­tionship with God, making rebellion against God the natural state of their flesh.

Is there any hope then? What keeps us from despairing and dying?

I want to make the case that both the problem of original sin and the hope of addressing it are not only applied to adults but also to children.

Discipline & Instruction are the two main strategies God gives us for parenting.

Promises from Scripture

1The Septuagint reads: πληγαὶ καὶ ἔλεγχοι διδόασιν σοφίαν παῖς δὲ πλανώμενος αἰσχύνει γονεῖς αὐτοῦ
Spankings and reproofs give wisdom: but a wandering child shames his mother. (NAW-LXX)

2Gen. 44:3; Jdg. 5:15; Prov. 17:11, Isaiah 28:22, 52:2, Dan. 10:11, Obad. 1:1

3Prov. 22:6

4Cf the Septuagint: ἄνοια ἐξῆπται καρδίας νέου ῥάβδος δὲ καὶ παιδεία μακρὰν ἀπ᾽ αὐτοῦ
Folly is
attached to the heart of a child, but the rod and discipline are far from him. (NAW-LXX)

5Job 5:17, ‎ Psalm 116:16, ‎ Proverbs 7:22

6LXX ὃς φείδεται τῆς βακτηρίας μισεῖ τὸν υἱὸν αὐτοῦ ὁ δὲ ἀγαπῶν ἐπιμελῶς παιδεύει

7Deut. 32:41; Ps. 45:6; 64:4; 120:4; 140:4; Prov. 25:18; Isa. 5:28 + Psalm 73:21

8Deuteronomy 24:16; Ezekiel 18:19-21

9Nehemiah 9:1-3; Daniel 9:16-23

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